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Couple Challenge: Conversation Starter

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First, spend some time in prayer and determine what God’s will is for your life. Once you have an idea of a vision begin to make a vision board. It’s ok if it changes and develops through time. Start by doing a little research online on how to create a vision board. Create the board in a way that you can keep it as a visual reminder of your goals and plans. You’ll also want to create it in such a way that you can change it as you go through life. One suggestion would be to purchase a poster size piece of foam board and carefully cover one side with contact paper. Use dry erase markers, magazine pictures or printed pictures from the internet to visualize your dream. For example, if you have a dream to visit another country cut out a picture of the country and put it on your vision board. Once you’ve gone, you can remove it and add a new place to visit. Add Bible verses to each part of your vision plan that would support your vision. Hang your vision board in an office or study or maybe on the back of your bedroom door so that you can see it and stay on track.

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Couple Challenge: Memorize & Discuss

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Discussion Questions:

  1. A godly marriage begins with a heart that is surrendered to God’s will. Is there any part of your relationship that you have not surrendered to God?
  2. What other areas of your life do you need to surrender to God – your career, children, hopes and dreams, a medical condition, troubled relationship with in laws or friends?
  3. Do you trust God with every area of your life to do what is good and right….even in the times when you find yourself wondering what God is doing or if He is listening?
  4. Take some time together and surrender to Him the areas you need to.
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Couple Challenge: Date Day

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Rent or purchase some snorkeling gear and an underwater camera. Find a place within driving distance of your home that is good for snorkeling. Take pictures of fish, coral reefs and other sea life. While you’re under water, take a kissing selfie. If snorkeling isn’t an option for you, try visiting an aquarium instead. Once you are back home, print out your photos. Look through them and try to identify the kinds of fish and sea life you saw. Arrange them in a photo album or poster board. Draw (or use clip art) and make some thought bubbles. Then write in some funny expressions based on the looks of the fish’s faces. Place your kissing selfie in the center and arrange your other photos around it. Add Psalms 8:6, 8-9 to the arrangement.

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Couple Challenge: Home Date Night

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Psalm 19:1 says, “The heavens declare the glory of God, and the sky proclaims the work of His hands.” Over in Isaiah 40:26, we read, “Look up and see: who created these? He brings out the starry host by number; He calls all of them by name. Because of His great power and strength, not one of them is missing.”

On a clear night, prepare a late dinner together and set up a table outside. Use your china, set candles on the table, and play some soft music. Have dinner under the moon. Borrow, rent, or purchase a telescope to view the moon and stars. Download Google Sky and learn about the constellations and planets. Talk about how the moon and stars display the glory of God as you peer at them through the telescope. How does it make you feel that God calls each star by name and not one of them is ever missing or lost? If God keeps track of the stars, then how much more does He never lose track of us who He created in His own image?

Dance in the moonlight.

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Couple Challenge: Romance Builder

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We can sometimes find it difficult to say the words we feel, but a song can do it for us. There is no doubt that music can set a mood and that deep inside we resonate with lyrics. Songs of faith, can lead us closer to God. Music in movies helps communicate to the viewer different emotions. In the movie, “The Holiday,”[1] Miles (Jack Black) tells Iris (Kate Winslet) that he wrote her a song and he “used only the good notes.” For Arthur (Eli Wallach), he wrote a spunky, lively tune to which Iris says, “It sounds like him.” In a video store, Miles plays a game with Iris and when coming to the film, “Jaws,”[2] Miles sings two notes and he says, “Just two notes and you have a villain.” You know in movies that something is about to happen based on the background music. The chords and rhythms the artist uses can make us happy, sad, scared, or on edge. They can also arouse that emotion called “love.” Music, both its lyrics and notes, speaks to our hearts and we feel inside what the writer is communicating through notes and words. Send a few lyrics of your chosen love song at a time, spreading them out through the day so he/she receives several texts from you all day long. At the end of the work day, text a YouTube link of the song. When you get home, take time to tell each other why you chose that song.

[1] The Holiday. Directed by Nancy Meyers. Brentwood, CA & Surrey, England: Columbia Pictures & Universal Pictures, 2006.
[2] Jaws. Directed by Steven Spielberg. Martha’s Vineyard, MA: Universal Pictures, 1975.