Honesty builds “oneness” in marriage that creates deeper trust and intimacy. However, men can sometimes find it difficult to share some of their deepest thoughts with their wives. They tend to want to protect them and not burden them with what’s going on in their lives. They don’t want their wives to see them vulnerable, unsure, or struggling. However, when you don’t share these things, you keep her locked out of a part of your life. You don’t give her the opportunity to pray for you, encourage you, and love you through whatever you are facing. Being open and honest with her in every area will help forge bonds of oneness that leads to greater intimacy, trust, and friendship.
Sharing with her in this way has an added benefit in that you don’t have to carry your burdens and struggles alone… after all, didn’t God create her to be a helper to you? Share with her what God is teaching you, the struggles you face at work, your fears, your hopes and dreams, and the exciting things God does in your life. Also, take time to ask about these things in your wife’s life…and take time to genuinely listen to her. In the book of Hebrews, Paul wrote, “Pray for us; for we are convinced that we have a clear conscience, wanting to conduct ourselves honorably in everything.”
Wives, your husbands could easily say this verse to you. Pray for him daily to live with a clear conscience and to conduct himself honorably in everything.
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