by Julia Bruce
Being a wife and mom can be one of the most rewarding experiences a woman could know — it can also be one of the most hardest and exasperating experiences. A woman who is caring for her home and family in a manner that honors God, is always watching over every activity and she is never idle. At times, though, life gets completely crazy and it feels like if just one more thing happens that last nerve that is already stretched to the breaking point will snap. In the moments that you feel overwhelmed, exhausted as you work on the third load of laundry (only to find your husband’s socks on the floor that missed the last load), change the baby’s diaper for the sixth time in a single hour because her tummy is upset and you were up all night with her crying…all while trying to figure out how to make the groceries last to the next pay day and fixing dinner with the fussy baby on your hip — what words come out of your mouth?
In Proverbs 31:10-31, Solomon writes about the “capable wife” and describes her characteristics. In verse 26, he writes, “whenever she opens her mouth, words of wisdom and loving instruction are on her tongue.” So in the crazy moments of life, what words come out of your mouth? Jesus said in Matthew 12:34 that “the mouth speaks from the overflow of the heart.” In other words, the words we speak will reveal the true nature of our heart. (click to tweet) For Solomon, the “capable wife” speaks out of wisdom and kindness. But when life get’s crazy and we’ve not had enough sleep, speaking out of wisdom and kindness can be very difficult. In these moments, it can be helpful to practice “the pause.” This simply means that before we let any words pass through our mouth, we take a deep breath in, hold it for a few seconds, and slowly let it out. During that process, you can send up a “mayday prayer” – a short, simple, quick prayer that is a cry for help. Maybe your mayday prayer is, “Lord! Give me strength!” or “Lord, let my words honor you.” or just simply, “Lord! Help!” David wrote in Psalm 121, “Where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth.” So no matter how cray life gets, remember where your help comes from. Then as you exhale, think about the words you will say before they come out of your mouth and make sure they are loving, full of wisdom and kindness – then they will be words that honor God.
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Julia is CEO of Wellspring Christian Ministries, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping people and couples develop a passionate relationship with God. A public speaker, conference trainer, event planner, and blog writer, Julia is a two-time graduate from Grand Canyon University with a bachelor in Psychology and a masters in Professional Counseling. Saved as a child and raised in church and in a Christian home and private Christian School as a Pastor’s kid, Julia has taught Sunday school, led music, played the piano, served as Children’s Director, and engaged her gifts in many other areas of church life. Previously employed with the Florida Baptist Convention, Julia organized events and led conferences for church ministry assistants.
Julia enjoys sharing her journey as a growing Christian with others looking for a deeper connection with God. Through Bible study and her own life experiences, God has given Julia a passion to help couples understand God’s design for marriage while they learn to place God first in their marriage, cultivate meaningful relationships, build intimacy, and address the tougher issues that come in every marriage so that they can experience a marriage that honors and glorifies God. Julia also loves mentoring, teaching, and working with women to help them learn to live as Godly women.
With her history and experience growing up in both small and large churches, Julia enjoys bringing top level quality events to churches of all sizes. Her father largely pastored small churches and therefore she understands that these vital parts of the believing community need to be good stewards of the resources God provides them with. This knowledge inspires her passion for being available with a fresh perspective for those who want to provide their congregations with meaningful spiritual growth opportunities.