Posted on Leave a comment

The Six Self-Care Tanks

by Julia M. Bruce, MSPC
CEO, Wellspring Christian Ministries
 “Therefore, my dear brothers, be steadfast,
immovable, always excelling in the Lord’s work,
knowing that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:58 (HCSB)

We need to make sure that when we practice self-care that we are taking care of all the multifaceted parts of who we are and who God created us to be. He didn’t make us just spiritual beings or just emotional beings. We are complex and unique to every other species of creation. Just as you would not (or shouldn’t) only change the oil in your car and ignore the tires, belts, hoses and all the working parts of your car, so you should not take care of just one part of who you are.

The Six “Tanks” that need Self-Care

Taking care of our spiritual needs only represents one-sixth of who we are. Each part is like a tank that is empty, full, or somewhere in between. As human beings, created in the image of God, we have six “tanks” that we need to keep filled: spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual, sensory, and social. We can be running low on one tank, several tanks or all tanks. Even if only one tank is low or empty, we can lose our effectiveness in the ministry.

Last week I referenced a research completed by Thom Rainer on burnout in the ministry. From the responses received in the research, Thom Rainer narrowed all the responses into twelve categorical responses from pastors that were asked: “What did you do to reverse the dark spiral of burnout?” The twelve categorical responses were:

  • spent more time in prayer and the Word
  • dreamed again
  • stopped comparing
  • developed relationships with non-Christians
  • moved my focus from the negative to the positive
  • learned to have fun
  • ended draining relationships
  • expressed gratitude regularly
  • spent more time doing things that energized me
  • got in better physical shape
  • made a commitment to have a greater servant spirit
  • began to pray for my community (Rainer, 2013)

For each response above,  see if you can relate them to at least one of the six “tanks” that we need to keep filled.

Self-Care Self Evaluation

Now, take a moment to do some self-evaluation. For each of the “tanks” listed below, evaluate how full you feel your tank is right now. Self-care isn’t necessarily about how full you are or are not in each of these areas, but how you feel they are full or empty or running low. Then as we explore each of these tanks in more detail in coming posts, I will ask you again to self-evaluate and see if you change your response.

  • Spiritual Tank:                                                                  
  • Physical Tank:                                                                  
  • Emotional Tank:                                                                   
  • Intellectual Tank:                                                               
  • Sensory Tank:                                                                  
  • Social Tank:                                                                      

Which of your tanks are on empty right now?
Which ones are between half-full and empty?

Self-care is a moment by moment self-evaluation

In reality, your responses to these questions can change from moment to moment. For example, you could start your day with full tank in all six areas and then receive a call that a loved one’s lab report came back and the results are not good and you need to take them immediately to the emergency room. Which of the “tanks” above could be affected by this news?

Certainly your emotional tank takes a hit. If you’re not well-connected to God in your spiritual life, your spiritual tank might take a hit. Over time, as you juggle work, ministry, family, finances, and hospital visits, your physical tank will take a hit.

On the other hand, as you learn about what is going on with your loved one’s medical condition, your intellectual tank might be getting filled. If you’re a squeamish person and there is a nasty wound, then your sensory tank might be getting overloaded. Likewise, with all the doctors, nurses, and everyone who cares about you and your loved you, you might feel overloaded in your social tank as well – despite COVID and social distancing.

Reading your “Tank meter”

In your car, you know when it is getting low on gas because you have either an analog or digital meter that lets you know it’s time to go in for a pit stop. But what let’s you know any one or all of your six tanks are low and need attention? God didn’t create us with a meter and a “ding” to let us know we’re running low…or did He? Our bodies often let us know when we’re running low, but we have to pay attention to what it is telling us. If you ignore the meter in your car, you’ll find yourself without gas in rush hour traffic and hopefully on the side of the road. If you ignore what your body is telling you, you’ll find yourself sidelined in your lane of ministry.

So it becomes important, then, for us to self-evaluate often and make sure that we are taking care of ourselves. When something feels off in your body – such as, you’re tired or have a headache, or you’re irritable – it’s a good time to check in with your self and re-evaluate all six of your tanks and see just how full they are – or are not.

Fill my cup, Lord!

As you look at your self-evaluation, perhaps your spirit cries out to God, “Fill my cup, Lord!” Maybe you look at it and say, “Not doing too bad.” Or maybe all your tanks are full to the brim. Whether you are reading this blog series because you are in full burnout mode and ready to call it quits or because you know someone who has reached this place, this blog series will help you find the way back to full tanks so that you can then, once again, pour into others.

What to expect from the self-care blogs

As you continue following this series of blogs, I will first break down what self-care is. Then we will discuss the differences between stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue. As we break those down, you will learn the danger signs of stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue. We will next look at each of the six tanks individually and give you ways that you can practice self-care in each of the six areas.

Self-care is not a miraculous cure-all

I must point out that self-care is no miraculous cure-all to what ails in your ministry. It will not fix the problems or make them all disappear. It will not make all your parishioners get along.

As long as Satan prowls this earth like a mighty lion, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8), then we are on a battlefield and we need to be able to stand firm in our calling until the day of Christ’s return. Practicing continuous self-care will allow you to keep your “tanks” as full as possible so that you will be more capable of standing firm, steadfast, immovable and always excelling in your work for the Lord. It will give you the strength you need so that you don’t choose to throw in the towel and walk away from your calling.

Pressured in every way but not crushed

As we close out this blog, let’s return to 2 Corinthians 4:8. Paul wrote: “We are pressured in every way…” Look up the verse in your Bible and read verses 8-9 out loud as it appears in the box below as a letter God wrote to you. Say your name in the blank and then read the verse.

2 Cor 4 8-9 Part 4

#selfcare #sixtanks #ministry #burnout

Revive Renew Redeem logo

Bible Studies, Bibles, Books & More

Christianbook Distributors logo
Everything Christian for less!

Looking for a Bible Study, Bible, book or Christian gift? We are an affiliate with Christianbook Distributors and receive an 8% commission on any item purchased through one of our links. However, the commission never increases your cost of any item. View some of our favorite items by clicking on the logo and thank you for supporting our ministry.

Christianbook Distributors Search:
Christianbook.com

What’s Inside God, Love and Marshmallow Wars?

This book includes 365 daily activities and takes you on a guided journey through Biblical principles about Godly marriage that you can then apply to your marriage, as well as helping you talk through concepts that can help you develop a solid relationship. Inside you will find simple, quick activities that include:

  • Scripture to memorize and meditate on
  • Conversation Starters
  • Concepts from the Bible on Godly marriages
  • Romance Builders
  • Relationship Builders
  • Personal reflections
  • Date ideas
  • Group date ideas for you and other Christian couples

Available in hardback, paperback and ebook from Westbow Press Bookstore, Christian Book Distributors, Amazon, and Barnes & Nobel. Click the icons below to purchase from your preferred bookstore. Now also available at WalMart online.

Westbow logo
Christian book logo
amazon logo
Barnes and Nobel logo
walmart logo


 Join the community of couples on Facebook who are committed to intentionally growing their marriage and learning how to have a marriage that honors God. Here you can post photos of the different activities as you do them, ask questions of other couples, share how God is using this book to strengthen your marriage, and grow with other Christian couples. We’ll see you in the community.

904.239.8937
A non-profit ministry located in Jacksonville, FL 
Follow us on:

facebook logo link on Bible reading post
LinkedIn logo link on Bible reading post
Twitter logo link on Bible reading post
Instagram logo link on Bible reading post
Pintrest logo link on Bible reading post
YouTub logo link on Bible reading post
Posted on Leave a comment

Quotes from the Self Care Blog Series

367 important for all selves
Quote © by Julia M. Bruce.
Please credit the author with a link to this page
when posting or using this quote in any manner.

The quote above is from Part 21 of a blog series by Julia Bruce on Self-Care for people in ministry. Read the blogs here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7, Part 8, Part 9, Part 10, Part 11, Part 12, Part 13, Part 14, Part 15, Part 16, Part 17, Part 18, Part 19, Part 20, Part 21, Part 22.

#selfcare #spiritualselfcare #WCM

quote ctt

October divider

news and events

growing into our future treeIf you would like to be a part of the God-sized dream we call Wellspring Christian Ministries, you can help with your one-time or monthly tax-deductible contribution. Now, with two ways to give, you can help us grow and expand our ministry. To donate to our general ministries, you can now make a contribution through our website. We are also seeking the perfect 200 (or more) acres of land on which we will build and do the various ministries God is leading us in. To make a donation towards Phase 1 of our Land and Building campaign, you can give at buymeacoffe.com. We like to think of ourselves as “Distributors of Living Water” …and for just the cost of a copy of coffee, you can be one too through your contribution that will have an eternal impact as we lead others to Christ, help Christians develop passionate relationships with God, and help couples connect and reignite their marriages. Who knew the cost of a cup of coffee could do so much? Donate today to become a Living Water Distributor

You can also make a contribution to our general ministries as we grow and expand our ministry as God leads through our website. To donate to our ministry expansion, click here.

  • Every gift will be acknowledged on our “Donor Wall” on our website. Just  leave your name the way you wish it to appear in the message box as you make your gift.
  • Every $50 will receive a free signed copy of Julia’s book, “God, Love & Marshmallow Wars”
  • Every $500 or more gift will receive the “God, Love & Marshmallow Wars” Couple Event for their church with Julia’s speaker fees waived (host site is still responsible for travel expense and other costs of the event).

give now

give now tree
Wellspring Christian Ministries is a 501(3)(c) non-profit organization.
Thank you for helping us grow!

#growingintoourfuture #fundraiser #buymeacoffee #WCM

 

Cover_mBOOKING NOW to be a host site for the NEW God, Love & Marshmallow Wars Book Tour & Couples Conference:

This event helps couples understand why the daily activities found in the book will equip them to build a stronger marriage and the book provides them with 365 intentional activities to take what they learn at the event and apply it on a daily basis. Through the event, couples will discover the Biblical “why” behind the categories of activities found in the book and the “how” these activities are important to building a stronger marriage. Focus points of the event includes :

  • How memorizing scripture together and studying God’s Word together as they study, meditate and apply scriptures related to marriage and life issues will help them develop marriages that honor God.
  • Why utilizing fun conversation starters that spark meaningful conversations will keep interest alive as they continually learn new things about each other.
  • Why keeping romance alive is essential to intimacy and connectivity.
  • How making memories and working together builds relationship investment bonds and how these investment bonds can become the knots that keeps them together through the tough times.
  • How they can understand what they are or are not contributing to the marriage as well as how they might be contributing to problems or potential problems within the relationship through the use of targeted, intentional personal reflections
  • Why it is important that couples never stop dating and how group dates with Christian friends can be both an encouragement and accountability to their own relationship.

During the event, couples will be given an activity from each focus point to do together, making this event an interactive, fun, and engaging event with practical, hands-on learning. Unlike other couple events that are over when the event ends, couples who attend the GLMW event will be able to apply what they learn when utilizing the book on a daily basis for a year. Since the book is not dated, couples are able to reuse the activities year after year to continue being intentional in strengthening their relationship with each other and with God as they strive to live out God’s design for marriage every day.

Learn more about hosting this event at your church or conference site by clicking here.

About the book: The GLMW book contains 365 daily challenges for couples to strengthen their relationships to each other and with God. Couples will complete activities such as Scripture memory, conversation starters, relationship builders, learning about Biblical marriage, romance builders, personal reflections, and date ideas. Click here to purchase your copy. (This link will open a new widow and take you to Westbow Press’ bookstore.) It is also available at Christian Book Distributors, Amazon, and Barnes & Noble

#GLMW #couplesevent #GLMWbook #intentionalmarriage #Godlymarriage

teespring spreadshop logos

T-shirt Fundraiser: We have a new product line of Christian apparel and accessories available in our Teespring Store and our new Spreadshop Store. You’ll find tee shirts, hoodies, tanks, socks, leggings, tote bags, mugs, iphone cases and more.

All proceeds go to the advancement of Wellspring Christian Ministries.
Thank you for helping us grow!

Click here to view the Teespring store. 

Click here to view the Spreadshop Store 

#fundraiser #tshirt #WCM #teespring #spreadshop

004

Looking for a keynote speaker for your next ministry event? Julia is now booking for 2019 and 2020 Christian events for women’s and couples’ ministries for both small and large events.
Book with us now.

Julia is CEO of Wellspring Christian Ministries, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping people and couples develop a passionate relationship with God. A public speaker, conference trainer, event planner, and blog writer, Julia is a two-time graduate from Grand Canyon University with a bachelor in Psychology and a masters in Professional Counseling. Saved as a child and raised in church and in a Christian home and private Christian School as a Pastor’s kid, Julia has taught Sunday school, led music, played the piano, served as Children’s Director, and engaged her gifts in many other areas of church life. Previously employed with the Florida Baptist Convention, Julia organized events and led conferences for church ministry assistants. Today, Julia enjoys sharing her journey as a growing Christian with others looking for a deeper connection with God. Through Bible study and her own life experiences, God has given Julia a passion to help couples understand God’s design for marriage while they learn to place God first in their marriage, cultivate meaningful relationships, build intimacy, and address the tougher issues that come in every marriage so that they can experience a marriage that honors and glorifies God. Julia also loves mentoring, teaching, and working with women to help them learn to live as Godly women.

With her history and experience growing up in both small and large churches, Julia enjoys bringing top level quality events to churches of all sizes. Her father largely pastored small churches and therefore she understands that these vital parts of the believing community need to be good stewards of the resources God provides them with. This knowledge inspires her passion for being available with a fresh perspective for those who want to provide their congregations with meaningful spiritual growth opportunities, regardless of size.

Image result for form pngTo request more information or a booking, 
fill out the online form here.

 

Image result for phone clipart png
Or call us at 904.524.8073

Posted on Leave a comment

Quotes from the Self Care Blog Series

294 selves.png

The quote above is from Part 21 of a blog series by Julia Bruce on Self-Care for people in ministry. Read the blogs here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7, Part 8, Part 9, Part 10, Part 11, Part 12, Part 13, Part 14, Part 15, Part 16, Part 17, Part 18, Part 19, Part 20, Part 21.

click to tweetClick here to tweet this quote.

August divider 2

teespring spreadshop logos

We have a new product line of Christian apparel and gifts available in our Teespring Store and our new Spreadshop Store. You’ll find tee shirts, hoodies, tanks, socks, leggings, tote bags, mugs, iphone cases and more. All proceeds go to the advancement of Wellspring Christian Ministries. Thank you for helping us grow!

Click here to view the Teespring store. 

Click here to view the Spreadshop Store which has a 15% discount through August 9, 2019

Cover_mHave you seen Julie’s new book: God, Love and Marshmallow Wars? This book contains 365 daily challenges for couples to strengthen their relationships to each other and with God. Couples will complete activities such as Scripture memory, conversation starters, relationship builders, learning about Biblical marriage, romance builders, personal reflections, and date ideas. Click here to purchase your copy. (This link will open a new widow and take you to Westbow Press’ bookstore.) It is also available at Christian Book Distributors, Amazon, and Barnes & Nobel

book now summer and fall

Looking for a speaker for your next ministry event? Julia is now booking for 2019 and 2020 Christian events for women’s and couples’ ministries for both small and large events.
Book with us now.

Julia is CEO of Wellspring Christian Ministries, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping people and couples develop a passionate relationship with God. A public speaker, conference trainer, event planner, and blog writer, Julia is a two-time graduate from Grand Canyon University with a bachelor in Psychology and a masters in Professional Counseling. Saved as a child and raised in church and in a Christian home and private Christian School as a Pastor’s kid, Julia has taught Sunday school, led music, played the piano, served as Children’s Director, and engaged her gifts in many other areas of church life. Previously employed with the Florida Baptist Convention, Julia organized events and led conferences for church ministry assistants.

Julia enjoys sharing her journey as a growing Christian with others looking for a deeper connection with God. Through Bible study and her own life experiences, God has given Julia a passion to help couples understand God’s design for marriage while they learn to place God first in their marriage, cultivate meaningful relationships, build intimacy, and address the tougher issues that come in every marriage so that they can experience a marriage that honors and glorifies God. Julia also loves mentoring, teaching, and working with women to help them learn to live as Godly women.

With her history and experience growing up in both small and large churches, Julia enjoys bringing top level quality events to churches of all sizes. Her father largely pastored small churches and therefore she understands that these vital parts of the believing community need to be good stewards of the resources God provides them with. This knowledge inspires her passion for being available with a fresh perspective for those who want to provide their congregations with meaningful spiritual growth opportunities.

Image result for form pngTo request more information or a booking, 
fill out the online form here.
Image result for phone clipart png
Or call us at 904.524.8073

 

Posted on Leave a comment

Couple Challenge: Faith & Marriage

263

God’s intention for marriage is for a couple to be united in every area of life. While united, we also maintain our personalities. We don’t need to be so co-dependent on each other that we lose sight of who we are and our likes and dislikes. While we recognize our uniqueness as God created us to be, we also need to be united in thinking, love, feelings, and goals. As you discuss the list above, determine how your personalities are united in each area and how they are different. Do the differences cause conflict or do they work together to build a stronger marriage? Where do you need to work to build unity and lessen conflict?