Almost every kids knows the saying, “Stick and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” There is never a saying more untrue! In fact, words often hurt more than physical wounds. Psychologists have found that the memories of hurtful words linger far longer than physical hurt. Guy Winch, Ph.D., listed five reasons that emotional pain is worse than physical:
- Memories Trigger Emotional Pain But Not Physical Pain. Recalling the time you broke your leg will not make your leg hurt but recalling the time you felt rejected by your high-school crush will cause you substantial emotional pain.
- We Use Physical Pain as Distraction from Emotional Pain Not Vice Versa. We rarely see a woman choosing to manage the pain of natural childbirth by rereading the rejection letter from her college of choice but teens will practice “cutting” as a way to relieve and distract themselves from deep emotional pain.
- Physical Pain Garners Far More Empathy from Others Than Emotional Pain. When we see a stranger get hit by a car we wince, gasp, or even scream and run to see if they’re OK. But when we see a stranger get bullied or taunted we are unlikely to do any of those things.
- Emotional Pain Echoes in Ways Physical Pain Does Not. If you got a call about your parent dying while you were having a romantic lobster meal with your partner on Valentine’s Day, it will probably be a few years before you can enjoy lobster or Valentine’s Day without becoming extremely sad. But if you broke your foot playing softball in an amateur league you will likely be back on the field as soon as you’re fully healed.
- Emotional Pain but Not Physical Pain Can Damage Our Self-Esteem and Long-Term Mental Health. Physical pain has to be quite extreme to affect our personalities and damage our mental health but even single episodes of emotional pain can damage our emotional health.
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It’s true that our words impact those around us – both positively and negatively – and we can be both intentional and unintentional in hurting others with what we say. Sometimes our words don’t convey exactly what we’re intending to communicate. For example, here are a few announcements found in actual church bulletins:
- This being Easter Sunday, we will ask Mrs. Smith to come forward and lay an egg on the altar.
- The ladies of the church have cast off clothing of every kind, and they may be seen in the church basement on Friday afternoon.
- This afternoon there will be a meeting in the South and North ends of the church. Children will be baptized at both ends.
While the above bulletin bloopers are simply poor grammar and word choices on the part of the writer, sometimes we say critical or unkind things as if they were a joke. However, if we are honest with ourselves, usually we feel there is some amount of truth to what we are saying when we are “just kidding”. We try to cleverly attempt to wrap up harsh words in a pun or some other attempt at humor, but such words still hurt.
Jesus taught that it is from the abundance of our heart that our mouth speaks. If it were not in our heart, it probably would not be coming out of our mouth. Our words shows our character and the character we should be showing is the glory of God in whom we are made in His image. Let’s make sure the words that are spoken come from a heart that is focused and in fellowship with our Savior. Make sure the words that spring forth from your heart and come out of your mouth build others up – not tear them down.
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In 2020 our emphasis is on revival for America with three key words: revive, renew, and redeem. You will begin to see the elements of our website and posts reflect this emphasis. We hope you’ll join us in praying for God to pour out the Holy Spirit with a mighty rushing wind of revival for our nation and around the world.
Our key verse for revival is 2 Chronicles 7:14. “If my people who are called by my name shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, forgive their sin, and heal their land. Our verse last week focused on humbling ourselves. This week, we’ll focus on praying.
This week’s memory verse:
Then you will call upon me and come and
pray to me, and I will hear you.
Meditate and apply:
Will you commit to praying with us in 2020 that God will revive His people, renew our faith, and redeem our land? We feel such an urgency and desperation for revival. If God is moving your heart for revival, write your revival prayer in the comments along with your state or country.
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This event helps couples understand why the daily activities found in the book will equip them to build a stronger marriage and the book provides them with 365 intentional activities to take what they learn at the event and apply it on a daily basis. Through the event, couples will discover the Biblical “why” behind the categories of activities found in the book and the “how” these activities are important to building a stronger marriage. Focus points of the event includes :
- How memorizing scripture together and studying God’s Word together as they study, meditate and apply scriptures related to marriage and life issues will help them develop marriages that honor God.
- Why utilizing fun conversation starters that spark meaningful conversations will keep interest alive as they continually learn new things about each other.
- Why keeping romance alive is essential to intimacy and connectivity.
- How making memories and working together builds relationship investment bonds and how these investment bonds can become the knots that keeps them together through the tough times.
- How they can understand what they are or are not contributing to the marriage as well as how they might be contributing to problems or potential problems within the relationship through the use of targeted, intentional personal reflections
- Why it is important that couples never stop dating and how group dates with Christian friends can be both an encouragement and accountability to their own relationship.
During the event, couples will be given an activity from each focus point to do together, making this event an interactive, fun, and engaging event with practical, hands-on learning. Unlike other couple events that are over when the event ends, couples who attend the GLMW event will be able to apply what they learn when utilizing the book on a daily basis for a year. Since the book is not dated, couples are able to reuse the activities year after year to continue being intentional in strengthening their relationship with each other and with God as they strive to live out God’s design for marriage every day.
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2 Chronicles 7:14 says, “If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves….” This week we have featured several resources on prayer. We hope you’ll choose one for your own personal Bible study and join us in seeking God with a heart of humility and pray with us for God to send a revival to America in 2020.
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||Seek: 28 Days to Extraordinary Prayer
By Jennifer Kennedy Dean / New Hope Publishers
Experience the peace that comes from yielding to God and the intimacy of worship and adoration! In daily and weekly entries, Dean encourages you to Surrender, Exalt, Expose, and Knock. Written to be used individually, as a family, or corporately, her brief 4-week guide will help you make prayer a life-altering habit. 156 pages, 5″ x 7″ softcover from New Hope.
||When God’s People Pray – Participant’s Guide: Six Sessions on the Transforming Power of Prayer
When God’s People Pray, Participant’s Guide is the companion book for group members. The DVD curriculum is sold separately and by Jim Cymbala, best-selling author of Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire. You and your church will learn transforming prayer through the Holy Spirit. Discover the power of God to restore hope, ignite faith, work miracles, and change lives…through prayer.
||Prayer: Forty Days of Practice
By Justin McRoberts & Scott Erickson / WaterBrook
Something in us searches for communion and communication with God. Although connection with the Creator is an innate desire, the effective practice of that connection can feel contrived or unnatural.
Prayer: Forty Days of Practice invites you to pray in more authentic and untethered ways. These prayers and images, along with contemplative reflections and suggested practices, are designed to stir and clarify what God is doing in you, which is the heart of prayer.
||Pray Big: Learn to Pray Like an Apostle
By Alistair Begg / Good Book Company
So many of us struggle with prayer. Many books have been written on the subject and there’s a reason for that. Prayer comes hard to most of us, in most seasons. And when we do pray, we often don’t know what to say. What is it that my Father loves to hear about? What are the best things I could pray for my family, my church, and myself?
This short book by renowned Bible teacher Alistair Begg combines warmth, clarity, humor, and practicality as he examines Paul’s prayers for his friends in the church in Ephesus. Paul clearly enjoyed prayer, and was excited about it. He expected his Father in heaven to hear what he said, and to act in other people’s lives accordingly. The truths that underpin and shape his prayers will motivate us to pray and set us an example.
So be inspired by the Apostle Paul to pray bigger and better prayers as we look to our heavenly Father to do more than all we ask or imagine!
||Prayer: Does It Make Any Difference? Participant’s Guide
By Philip Yancey / Zondervan
If God knows everything, why pray? Why do answers seem inconsistent and unpredictable? How can I make prayer more satisfying? Explore the most mysterious aspect of our relationship with God! Based on Yancey’s best-selling Prayer: Does It Make Any Difference? this 6-session study illuminates a sometimes confusing yet infinitely rewarding activity. Companion DVD sold separately (SKU: 275251).
First Lesson Free! PDF Study Guide
||Pray About Everything, Tapestry Word Pillow
By Manual Woodworkers & Weavers
Encouraging words are displayed on our woven tapestry prayer pillow Don’t worry about anything, instead pray about everything, and thank Him for His answers. Philippians 4:6
Poly/cotton tapestry with floral lattice border design and back insert pocket in which to store your personal prayer reminders. Made in the U.S.A. 12″ x 8″ with piped edging.
||If My People (2 Chronicles 7:14, KJV) Truth Tag
By B&H Church Supply
Inspiring and colorful Truth Tag set is a wonderful way to carry a Scripture verse with you. Bold contemporary graphic design and high glossy finish. An affordable Christian encouragement or appreciation gift! Attach this patriotic Truth Tag to your key chain, luggage, purse, or backpack; keep the bookmark in your current favorite read.
Featured Scripture: 2 Chronicles 7:14 (KJV)
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways…
- Key Ring Tab: 2″ x 1″ I Will Heal Their Land
- Bookmark: 2.5″ x 5″
||If My People: A Prayer Guide for our Nation
By Thomas Nelson
Embark on a 40-day prayer journey for America during a time of political division and transition! In the spirit of 2 Chronicles 7:14, this helpful guide provides devotional thoughts to inspire you to lift up our nation’s leaders, and includes seven meditations from past presidents that were inspired during our country’s darkest days. 128 pages, hardcover from Nelson.
Before Amen Paperback
By Max Lucado / Thomas Nelson
Do you wish you prayed more—with more fire, faith, and fervency? Embarking on a journey to the very heart of biblical petition, Lucado explores the quotable, repeatable, portable prayer that Jesus gave his first followers when they struggled with this spiritual discipline. Discover how to have a heartfelt dialogue with God—and let the conversation begin! 192 pages, softcover from Nelson.
||Draw the Circle: The 40 Day Prayer Challenge
By Mark Batterson / Zondervan
Since The Circle Maker‘s release in 2011, inspiring stories of God’s answers to prayer have poured in to Mark Batterson’s inbox. In Draw the Circle he shares 40 of those faith-building stories through devotional readings that will encourage you to keep praying like never before.The 40-day prayer plan outlined in Draw the Circle will give you the insight and motivation you need to develop a deeper, more passionate prayer life. And as you take on the prayer challenge Batterson lays out, you’ll be sowing seeds that will bear a lifetime of faith as you watch God work in your life and in the world.
||The Circle Maker
By Mark Batterson / Zondervan
Updated and revised! When his land was drought-stricken in ancient times, Honi ha-M’agel drew a circle in the sand, stepped inside it, and wouldn’t budge until God answered his petition for rain. What impossible dream are you praying about? Sharing new insights and personal stories, Batterson’s bestseller will help you achieve your desires through audacious prayer. 240 pages, softcover from Zondervan.
Overcomer DVD Bible Study Kit
By Stephen Kendrick & Alex Kendrick / B&H Books
Many people feel they are less than who God says they are. We get our identity from our careers, our political positions, family roles in the family, and other things. This small group study uses clips from the film Overcomer to examine how we determine our identity and how we can find our true identity in Christ.
The Bible study is geared for adult groups to use prior to the movie or just after seeing the movie. The study includes clips from the movie.
The Overcomer Bible Study Kit has five sessions and includes:
- one Bible Study Book
- one DVD with a promotional video and five 2-4 minute video sessions
- Who Are You?
- You Are Broken
- You Are Chosen
- You Surrender
- You Declare
By Provident Films
From the creators of War Room, Courageous and Fireproof. Basketball coach John Harrison’s high school team is crushed by the closing of the town’s largest employer. Hundreds of families move, leaving him running a struggling cross-country program. But then he meets Hannah and begins helping this unlikely runner attempt the impossible in the year’s biggest race. Starring Alex Kendrick, Priscilla Shirer, and Aryn Wright-Thompson. Rated PG. Dove approved (12+). Approx. 119 minutes.
- The Heart of Overcomer
- Creating the Opening Drone Shot
- Working with the Kendricks
- Post-Production Behind-the-Scenes: Editing, Scoring, Coloring, and Sound Design
- “Enough” (Lyric Video) Featuring Koryn Hawthorne
- Don’t Mess with the Editors
- The Making of Overcomer
- 10 Minutes of Additional Scenes
- Commentary with Director Alex Kendrick and Producer Stephen Kendrick
- Overcomer in 60 Seconds
- The Theme of Identity
- The Power of Forgiveness
- “Overcomer” (Lip Sync Music Video) Featuring Mandisa and More!
- Audio: English, French (PAR), Spanish, Thai
- Subtitles: English, English (SDH), Spanish, Chinese (Traditional and Simplified), Tagalog, Korean, Thai, Vietnamese
God, Love, and Marshmallow Wars: 365 Daily Challenges to Grow Your Marriage
By Julia M. Bruce/Westbow Press