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Understanding and Taking Responsibility for Stress

 “Consider it a great joy, my brothers, whenever you experience
various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces
endurance. But endurance must do its complete work, so that you
may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.”

James 1:2-4 (HCSB)
by Julia M. Bruce, MSPC
CEO, Wellspring Christian Ministries

James told us that we are to consider the various trails we face in life not just a joy, but a great joy. Why? Because through them we are able to see how Jesus conquers them and then our faith grows and we are ready for the next thing He would have us do. But as James teaches us, increased faith only happens when endurance does its complete work in us. Endurance begins in understanding stress better, and we’ll start with explaining what stress is.

Defining Stress

The best definition of stress comes from combining two online dictionaries to create a solid understanding of stress. Using these two dictionaries, stress is, “A state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances that disturbs or interferes with one’s normal physiological equilibrium. A physical, mental, or emotional strain or tension.” (Google) (Dictionary.com)

Stress Leaves its Mark

If you think about a rubber band being stretched, then you can see how stress can affect you. Either of two things happens: one can stretch and stretch until the rubber band slips and then it sling shots across the room leaving a stinging mark on whatever – or whomever – it hits or it is stretched and stretched until it reaches its breaking point and leaves a stinging mark on the person who is stretching it as the rubber snaps and breaks.

The more stress we feel the more we can be like the rubber band and leave our stinging stress marks on those around us and on ourselves. The only problem is that stress and the marks it leaves can also hurt our testimony and therefore the very ministry we have been called to. The more we ignore stress or let it pile up, the more we are stretching that rubber band. We have to be able to both recognize what is causing stress in our lives and our most capable ways of dealing with stress.

Identifying your Stressors

The first step to dealing with stress is to identify what your stressors are. Major stressors can be easy to identify. They loom before us like giants, and keep us awake at night. However, areas of chronic stress may not be as easy to see. There are also stressors that you might not think of as stressors…areas of life that can be exciting such as receiving a promotion or getting married.

To identify your stressors, first take a moment and answer the following questions:

  • What parts of your ministry are stressful?
  • What part of your home and personal life is stressful?
  • Do you have any financial stress?
  • Are there any health stressors?
  • Add any other stressors in your life.

As we continue to learn about stress, you might find you need to come back and add to what you have already listed.

Getting control of stress

It’s one thing to identify the areas of stress in your life, but if you want to begin to get control over your stress, you must also take responsibility for the role you play for the stress in your life.  You have to examine your own thoughts, feelings, habits and behaviors that might be contributing to your stress. For example, meeting an important deadline might cause a high level of stress, but you also need to examine if there are any habits or behavior that may have contributed to the stress of meeting the deadline. If you procrastinated until the last minute, then your procrastination would be the bigger stressor rather than the deadline itself.

Ask yourself the following questions to help you identify any role you might be playing in the stress you have. Remember to consider your habits, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. Take a moment to answer each question below and list an example of a recent stressful experience that comes to mind for each question:

  • Do you see stress as just part of the nature of your ministry or home life?
  • Do you tend to explain away stress as temporary?
  • What habits do you have that contribute to or increase levels of stress?
  • Do you see stress as just part of who you are?
  • What beliefs do you have that might make stressful situations more intense?
  • What attitudes appear when faced with stress that can add to the stressful situations?
  • Can you remember the last time you were able to rest and take a break?
  • What behaviors exhibit themselves when you are stressed?
  • Do you tend to blame stress on other people or events?

What marks are your stressors leaving?

Think back to the example of a stretched rubber band that leaves its stinking mark on whomever it hit once it snaps. Just like it leaves a stinging mark, so do we when we are stressed. Consider each of these questions above and evaluate if the stressors you identified above are leaving their marks on others, yourself, or your ministry. Go back and write the names of people that have been affected by the stinking marks left by the stress you experienced. Very likely, you either identified yourself or someone else that was affected by every single one of them because it is just about impossible to experience stress without it leaving a mark somewhere.

The questions then become: Are the marks your stress is leaving negative or positive marks? Are the marks negative or positive on those around you? Are they negative or positive to your ministry? If there are positive stress marks, place a positive sign next to those stressors. If it is negative, then place a negative symbol next to them. You may find that there are both positive and negative marks. If there are negative marks, you might want to stop here and take some time to seek those persons out and ask for their forgiveness.

Finding Rest from the Stress

Jesus said in Matthew 11:28, “Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” No matter what stress we are experiencing, we can bring it to Him and find rest, comfort, strength, and wisdom. Spend some time and look up a verse in your Bible that would speak to each one of the stressors you identified. Begin working on memorizing these verses so when the moments of stress come in these areas, the Holy Spirit can recall them to your mind and you can speak Words of Life over your stress.

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Proverbs 16:9. Our Plans vs. God-Established Steps

Man’s Plans

Throughout history, mankind has made plans for what we will do each day. In the office, I start out my day with a planning sheet I created for myself. I organize my day and prioritize tasks to ensure the most important ones get done. We also make plans for holidays and vacations. We set financial goals and makes plans for how to achieve them. Weddings, birthdays, and other events all require plans. Expectant parents plan and prepare for a new child. Sometimes our plans work out and sometimes they don’t. With COVID now a part of our world, there have been many delayed plans and some cancelled plans.

When I travel for work, I need to plan for what time I need to leave. I use my GPS to plan my route for me. A pilot must make his flight plan or your trip to Paris might end up in Australia. A ship’s captain has to chart his course to reach his destination. The Army general must make his battle plans. Teachers make lesson plans. The corporate owner plans for her business to grow and expand. We all make plans.

There is nothing wrong with planning. In fact, it is good to set goals and plan. If we didn’t, our lives would be a little here and a little there. Our lives would be all over the place, like a balloon you blow up and then let go without tying a knot in it. As a result, we really never accomplish much. Planning is definitely a good thing.

Begin your plans with prayer

However, as Christians our plans should always begin with prayer and seeking God’s will for our lives. If God has been included in the planning process, we can be assured our plans will succeed, even if we experience some bumps and detours along the way. (Click to tweet) When our planning is contrary to God’s will, we become guilty of sin.

In James 4:13-17, James wrote, “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will travel to such and such a city and spend a year there and do business and make a profit.’ You don’t even know what tomorrow will bring — what your life will be! For you are like smoke that appears for a little while, then vanishes. Instead, you should say, ‘If the Lord will, we will live and do this or that.’ But as it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil. So it is a sin for the person who knows to do what is good and doesn’t do it.”

God may allow you to make your own plans without consulting Him. He will even allow you to make your own plans when you don’t particularly like His will. He will allow you to decide to do things your way. But you can be assured that regardless of what you plan, God will be the one directing each step your take. (Click to tweet) And if, out of your arrogance and pride, you choose to do things your way, God will still bring about His divine will. But the path to get there probably won’t be one you enjoy.

Jonah’s disastrous plans

Jonah is an example of someone who didn’t like what God was telling him to do and so he made his own plans. God wanted Jonah to go preach in Nineveh and Jonah didn’t want to go. He got on a boat and went in the opposite direction from Nineveh. As a result, a great storm came up and everyone on the boat became afraid they would die at sea. They started throwing the cargo over to lighten the boat’s load and then Jonah told them they had to throw him overboard and the storm would stop. The sailors thought Jonah was crazy, but after a while, they conceded and tossed Jonah into the storm-tossed waves.

God was not only directing Jonah’s steps, but he also directed the swim path of a great fish who came along at that exact moment and swallowed Jonah up. After living three days in the belly of the fish, Jonah finally repents. God then has the fish throw up Jonah and Jonah goes to Nineveh and preaches.

Joseph’s brothers’ plans were used by God

Joseph’s life is another example of how plans were made for Joseph but God used those plans to have Joseph in the exact spot he needed to be at just the right moment in time. His brothers were all jealous of him so they made plans to put him in a pit and then sale him off as a slave when a traveling caravan comes by. Sold as a slave, Joseph lands in Egypt. But in Egypt is right where God wants Joseph to be because God will use him years later during a great famine to save his entire family.

Joseph in Egypt:

Throughout Joseph’s time in Egypt, God directed the steps of his life that led him to become the 2nd in command of all of Egypt answering only to Pharaoh. However, it wasn’t just Joseph’s brothers that had plans for him. Others had plans for him too. Potipher’s wife had plans to sleep with Joseph and when Joseph ran from her presence, she grabbed his outer cloak and waited for her husband to get home, then claimed that Joseph had attacked her. As a result Joseph landed in jail for the next few years of his life. But if Joseph had not been in jail where he could interpret the dreams of two of Pharaoh’s servants, he may not have then been called before Pharaoh to interpret his dream about the upcoming famine and provide Pharaoh with a plan to see the nation through the famine.

Joseph in Charge:

Pharaoh liked Joseph’s plan so well that he put Joseph in charge of enacting the plan, which set Joseph in the exact place that God wanted him to be so that when his brothers came to buy grain during the famine, Joseph did in fact save his family from perishing in the famine. When Joseph finally reveals himself to his brothers, he tells them, “What you meant for evil, God meant for good.” (Genesis 50:20)

I’m sure that Joseph’s life plan did not include a pit or a prison – but it was the pit and the prison that got him to the palace. Through the story of Joseph, we find over and over again that the Bible says God was with Joseph. God was with him in the pit, in the prison, and in the palace.

A Shepherd Boy not informed about the plans

What can we learn about God’s plans for a shepherd boy named David? David was the youngest of Jesse’s sons. In fact, David was son number 8! At the time we learn about this shepherd boy, God had disowned Saul as king of Israel and God instructed the prophet Samuel to go to Jesse’s home and anoint a new king over Israel. Well, first of all, God had rejected Saul – but Saul was still king so what God has instructed Samuel to do was, in fact, treason. As Samuel points this out to God, God tells him to take a bull with him and hold a sacrifice, so with bull in tow and a flask of oil, Samuel sets out for the home of Jesse.

Samuel visits Jesse’s family

Upon his arrival he sees the oldest son of Jesse and thinks to himself, “surely this is the one the Lord will anoint.” As Samuel looked at this son, he was tall and handsome. When we find Samuel anointing Saul the same description was used to describe Saul. Samuel was looking for another Saul – just a younger version. We might say he was looking for Saul point two. But God did not choose this son. So Jesse sent the 2nd son, and then the 3rd, and then the 4th and so on through the first seven of Jesse’s sons. Then Samuel says to Jesse, “Are these all your sons?” and Jesse tells him there is one more but that the was out tending the sheep. Samuel instructs Jesse to get him and bring him for no one would sit down to the sacrifice meal until this youngest son was brought.

God’s chosen annointed

When David arrived, God told Samuel, “This is the one I have chosen. Anoint him.” Essentially, this sacrifice meal was David’s coronation dinner and he hadn’t even been invited to it. He had been left out of the plan – but God still brought His plan to be. God chose David, the youngest, least likely, shepherd boy to be king. However, there was 20 years and 20 chapters in the Bible between the moment Samuel anointed David and the time that David sat on the throne. In those 20 years, David would have to hide, fight for his life, and be hunted by an angry king with mental health issues. And in those 20 years, God would stretch and grow David so that David would be prepared for God’s plan for David’s life. David may not have been invited to his own party – but God still brought His plan to be.

A group of shepherds with interrupted plans

In the New Testament, a group of shepherds made plans for tending their flock through the night. But God interrupted the night and sent angels to proclaim the birth of Jesus which brought the shepherds to worship the new born King. Their plans were to simply care for their flock of sheep – God’s plans were to bring them to worship Jesus.

Mary & Joseph’s altered plans

Mary and Joseph were engaged but God sent an angel to tell Mary that she, a virgin, would have a child – the Son of God. But that was the only time Mary and Joseph’s plans were changed by God. An angel came to Joseph in a dream and warned him about a king who planned to kill every male child and told him to get up and take Mary and the child to Egypt – so he did. They made plans for going to temple when Jesus was 12 years old. Their plans had to include both getting there and returning home. But along the way back home, they realized Jesus wasn’t with them and they returned to find Jesus teaching the religious leaders. Their plans were to fulfill their religious obligations at the temple and return home – God’s plans were for Jesus to be teaching the religious leaders.

A lame man’s plans for begging for alms

A lame man who had been lame since birth had plans for going to the temple to beg for alms but as Peter and James saw him and listened to the leading of the Holy Spirit, Peter said to him, “Silver and gold I do not have, but what I do have I give to you. In the name of Jesus Christ, rise up and walk.” In an instant, he was healed and he went walking and leaping and praising God. The Lame Man’s plans were to get enough alms so he could eat – God’s plan was a miraculous healing.

Judas plans to conspire against Jesus

Judas made plans to betray Jesus into the hands of the Pharisees and Saducees. The Pharisees and Saducees made plans to kill Jesus by getting the Romans to crucify Him. While they thought they were in control, God used their plans to bring about His own plans for providing redemption for all mankind. (Click to tweet) Their plans were to kill Jesus and silence His teaching – God’s plan was for Jesus to pay the wages of our sin so that we could have eternal life and fellowship with God. 

God directs our steps

Ultimately, none of us controls our own plans. God directs each step we take to bring about His perfect plans. For some, the idea that God controls everything in our lives can be disturbing. But when you realize that the omnipotent and omnipresence God who created each one of us and the entire universe knows infinitely more about the plans we make than we do, we can realize that knowing God is in control is actually for our benefit. (click to tweet) 

God has good plans

Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that God has good plans for us – plans for our welfare and not destruction. If we truly believe this, then we should have no problems starting our planning time in prayer and seeking God’s will to be sure that the plans we make align with God’s will. If we do, then we can surrender our plans into His hands and trust that even if the path to get where we were planning looks different than how we planned it, that ultimately God will get us there, that He will work all things our for our good (Rom. 8:28), and he will be with us every step of the way, just like Joseph.

The danger of rejecting God’s plans

But if we try to go our own way like Jonah, we might find ourselves in some trouble just like Jonah did and then find ourselves right where God wanted us in the first place. Had Jonah simply cooperated with God’s plan in the first place, he could have saved himself three days in the belly of a fish – and if we will cooperate with God’s plans for our lives, we can save ourselves from the unpleasant consequences that running from God brings.

So go ahead and make your plans, but start every plan with prayer, seeking God’s will first. Then as you make your plans centered around His will, ask that your plans will bring Him honor and glory. If, like Joseph, the path getting to where God wants you looks different than you thought it would and includes a “pit” or “prison” along the way, remember that God is always with you and if the “palace” is God’s plan for you, you can trust Him to get you there at just the right moment so you are in position for what God wants to do in your life.

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How did Jesus Handle Stress?

 “Consider it a great joy, my brothers, whenever you experience
various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces
endurance. But endurance must do its complete work, so that you
may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.”

James 1:2-4 (HCSB)

by Julia M. Bruce, MSPC
CEO, Wellspring Christian Ministries

Stress. Just reading the word may have made you feel some level of stress. There is really no way to go through life without it. Babies experience it while still in the womb. Children feel it when separated from loving parents or when it is time for a test in school. Teenagers experience it learning to drive and beginning to navigate life with more independence. College students experience it learning to do life with roommates, learning to be responsible, and in making choices that will affect the rest of their lives. Newlyweds experience it as they learn to live together and do life together. It’s in the corporate world. It’s in the financial world. Stress is in the medical world. It’s in politics. It’s in your senior years. It shows up at work, in your family, and even among friends.

Stress in Ministry

Ministry is no different. Just because you answer the call to serve God, your obedient “yes” does not save you from stress. Jesus even warned the disciples in John 16:33 (HCSB), “You will have suffering in this world.” He didn’t say “if.” He said, “You will.” Sometimes the stress we experience is of our own making when we step out of God’s best for us. Sometimes it comes outside of anything we can control. The short of it is that you, and me, can be assured that we will experience stress. Thankfully, Jesus didn’t end what He was saying to the disciples with just that statement. He went on to say, “Be courageous! I have conquered the world.” And that is very good news!

Jesus experienced stress

Jesus himself experienced stress while he was on earth. The Son of God who took on human flesh and walked on earth, lived among men, and had the hardest task ever given – one that would determine eternity for every person God created. Jesus knows what stress is. He knew exactly what would be lost if for any reason He failed in His mission. We would be lost. If He failed, we would not have a choice to accept Him as our Savior. It would mean that every one of us would have no hope of spending eternity in heaven. It would mean that all of us would be destined for an eternity in hell.

If anyone was ever under pressure to accomplish His mission, it would have been Jesus. On the night He was betrayed in the garden, we can hear the stress and anxiety His human body felt as he prayed for God to take “this cup,” the task of going to the cross, away from Him. He was under so much stress that the Bible says he sweated drops of blood while he was praying.

How Jesus handled Stress

Ephesians 5:1-2 tells us that we are to be imitators of God. 2 Corinthians 3:18 says that we who are Christians are being transformed into His image. If we are to be “Christ-like,” then we need to see how He handled stress and listen to His instructions for the moments of life that are stressful.

The Bible doesn’t give us much information about Jesus’ growing up years, but we do know from the moment we see Him beginning His ministry at age 30 (Luke 3:23), He was faced with expectations by Jews who believed that if He was the Messiah, he would set up an earthly kingdom and free them from the Romans. Jesus was spied on and questioned by Sadducees and Pharisees who constantly tried to trip Him up and discredit Him to the ones who did believe in Him. He was either greatly loved, or greatly hated.

There was a constant demand to perform miracles, but He never ran away from the people. He didn’t use the disciples as bodyguards who people had to get through to get Him.  Jesus even made Himself available to little children. He had the responsibility for training and preparing His twelve disciples to be the ones who would carry the gospel message to the world after He would return to Heaven. When the disciples failed to understand something Jesus was teaching them, we never see Him yell at them.  Even as He faced the cross, we don’t see Jesus arguing with Pilate when he sentenced Jesus to death just so Pilate could appease the people and avoid an angry mob.  

No matter what stress He faced, we never once see Him crumble. The Bible never tells us of one moment where Jesus felt lost or helpless or hopeless.

How did Jesus do it all?

When the disciples tried to send away little children who they saw as being in Jesus’ way, Jesus stopped them and welcomed them. It makes us want to ask, “How did Jesus do it all?” Of course, He was the Son of God, but He was also our example.

In Mark 6, we find Jesus and the disciples exhausted. They had been so busy doing ministry that they had not even had time to eat. So Jesus tells them to take some time to go away to a remote place and rest but the crowds of people saw them leaving and ran ahead of them. When Jesus and the disciples stepped on shore he doesn’t send them away. Verse 34 tells us that Jesus had compassion on them and began to teach them. Then he feeds 5000 people with five loaves of bread and two fish.  

Even as Jesus neared his death and upcoming crucifixion, He set the example for us. When Peter cut off an ear of a soldier who had come to arrest Jesus, He picked up the ear and miraculously put it back on. On the way to the cross, as He stumbled beneath the load of carrying the cross they would nail Him to, He turns to the women crying for Him and says, “Do not weep for me” (Luke 23:28). Even on the cross we cries out to God saying, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34)

Jesus: A model for emotional strength

Throughout His life, we see Christ model emotional strength, sense of purpose, and motivation. Yes, He was the Son of God…but do not lose the fact that while on earth, He was also human and He experienced stress just as we do. However, we never see Him giving in to the pressures of stress.

Jesus taught us that we should not stress and worry. In Matthew 6:25, Jesus taught, “Do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?” Then in verses 32-34, He says, “For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things.”

It sounds really good to just simply “not worry” but it isn’t easy in practice. In Psalm 121:1-2, David asks, “Where will my help come from?” Then he answers his own questions with, “My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Habakkuk 3:19 says, “Yahweh my Lord is my strength.” And in John 14:26, Jesus told us, “But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit – the Father will send Him in My name – will teach you all things and remind you of everything I have told you.” 

Jesus not only set an example, He also gave us the power of God living in us through the Holy Spirit that can help us meet every stressful situation we face.

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The Six Self-Care Tanks

by Julia M. Bruce, MSPC
CEO, Wellspring Christian Ministries
 “Therefore, my dear brothers, be steadfast,
immovable, always excelling in the Lord’s work,
knowing that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:58 (HCSB)

We need to make sure that when we practice self-care that we are taking care of all the multifaceted parts of who we are and who God created us to be. He didn’t make us just spiritual beings or just emotional beings. We are complex and unique to every other species of creation. Just as you would not (or shouldn’t) only change the oil in your car and ignore the tires, belts, hoses and all the working parts of your car, so you should not take care of just one part of who you are.

The Six “Tanks” that need Self-Care

Taking care of our spiritual needs only represents one-sixth of who we are. Each part is like a tank that is empty, full, or somewhere in between. As human beings, created in the image of God, we have six “tanks” that we need to keep filled: spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual, sensory, and social. We can be running low on one tank, several tanks or all tanks. Even if only one tank is low or empty, we can lose our effectiveness in the ministry.

Last week I referenced a research completed by Thom Rainer on burnout in the ministry. From the responses received in the research, Thom Rainer narrowed all the responses into twelve categorical responses from pastors that were asked: “What did you do to reverse the dark spiral of burnout?” The twelve categorical responses were:

  • spent more time in prayer and the Word
  • dreamed again
  • stopped comparing
  • developed relationships with non-Christians
  • moved my focus from the negative to the positive
  • learned to have fun
  • ended draining relationships
  • expressed gratitude regularly
  • spent more time doing things that energized me
  • got in better physical shape
  • made a commitment to have a greater servant spirit
  • began to pray for my community (Rainer, 2013)

For each response above,  see if you can relate them to at least one of the six “tanks” that we need to keep filled.

Self-Care Self Evaluation

Now, take a moment to do some self-evaluation. For each of the “tanks” listed below, evaluate how full you feel your tank is right now. Self-care isn’t necessarily about how full you are or are not in each of these areas, but how you feel they are full or empty or running low. Then as we explore each of these tanks in more detail in coming posts, I will ask you again to self-evaluate and see if you change your response.

  • Spiritual Tank:                                                                  
  • Physical Tank:                                                                  
  • Emotional Tank:                                                                   
  • Intellectual Tank:                                                               
  • Sensory Tank:                                                                  
  • Social Tank:                                                                      

Which of your tanks are on empty right now?
Which ones are between half-full and empty?

Self-care is a moment by moment self-evaluation

In reality, your responses to these questions can change from moment to moment. For example, you could start your day with full tank in all six areas and then receive a call that a loved one’s lab report came back and the results are not good and you need to take them immediately to the emergency room. Which of the “tanks” above could be affected by this news?

Certainly your emotional tank takes a hit. If you’re not well-connected to God in your spiritual life, your spiritual tank might take a hit. Over time, as you juggle work, ministry, family, finances, and hospital visits, your physical tank will take a hit.

On the other hand, as you learn about what is going on with your loved one’s medical condition, your intellectual tank might be getting filled. If you’re a squeamish person and there is a nasty wound, then your sensory tank might be getting overloaded. Likewise, with all the doctors, nurses, and everyone who cares about you and your loved you, you might feel overloaded in your social tank as well – despite COVID and social distancing.

Reading your “Tank meter”

In your car, you know when it is getting low on gas because you have either an analog or digital meter that lets you know it’s time to go in for a pit stop. But what let’s you know any one or all of your six tanks are low and need attention? God didn’t create us with a meter and a “ding” to let us know we’re running low…or did He? Our bodies often let us know when we’re running low, but we have to pay attention to what it is telling us. If you ignore the meter in your car, you’ll find yourself without gas in rush hour traffic and hopefully on the side of the road. If you ignore what your body is telling you, you’ll find yourself sidelined in your lane of ministry.

So it becomes important, then, for us to self-evaluate often and make sure that we are taking care of ourselves. When something feels off in your body – such as, you’re tired or have a headache, or you’re irritable – it’s a good time to check in with your self and re-evaluate all six of your tanks and see just how full they are – or are not.

Fill my cup, Lord!

As you look at your self-evaluation, perhaps your spirit cries out to God, “Fill my cup, Lord!” Maybe you look at it and say, “Not doing too bad.” Or maybe all your tanks are full to the brim. Whether you are reading this blog series because you are in full burnout mode and ready to call it quits or because you know someone who has reached this place, this blog series will help you find the way back to full tanks so that you can then, once again, pour into others.

What to expect from the self-care blogs

As you continue following this series of blogs, I will first break down what self-care is. Then we will discuss the differences between stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue. As we break those down, you will learn the danger signs of stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue. We will next look at each of the six tanks individually and give you ways that you can practice self-care in each of the six areas.

Self-care is not a miraculous cure-all

I must point out that self-care is no miraculous cure-all to what ails in your ministry. It will not fix the problems or make them all disappear. It will not make all your parishioners get along.

As long as Satan prowls this earth like a mighty lion, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8), then we are on a battlefield and we need to be able to stand firm in our calling until the day of Christ’s return. Practicing continuous self-care will allow you to keep your “tanks” as full as possible so that you will be more capable of standing firm, steadfast, immovable and always excelling in your work for the Lord. It will give you the strength you need so that you don’t choose to throw in the towel and walk away from your calling.

Pressured in every way but not crushed

As we close out this blog, let’s return to 2 Corinthians 4:8. Paul wrote: “We are pressured in every way…” Look up the verse in your Bible and read verses 8-9 out loud as it appears in the box below as a letter God wrote to you. Say your name in the blank and then read the verse.

2 Cor 4 8-9 Part 4

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Self-Care Part 4: The Five Tanks You Need to Fill

by Julia M. Bruce, MSPC

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 “Therefore, my dear brothers, be steadfast,
immovable, always excelling in the Lord’s work,
knowing that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:58 (HCSB)

We need to make sure that when we practice self-care that we are taking care of all the multifaceted parts of who we are. Taking care of our spiritual needs only represents one-fifth of who we are. Each part is like a tank that is empty, full, or somewhere in between. As human beings, created in the image of God, we have five “tanks” that we need to keep filled: spiritual, sensory, emotional, physical, and social. We can be running low on one tank, several tanks or all tanks. Even if only one tank is low or empty, we can lose our effectiveness in the ministry. Let’s Take a moment review from Part 3 of this series, Thom Rainer’s twelve responses from 17 pastors that were asked: “What did you do to reverse the dark spiral of burnout?” The twelve responses were:

  • spent more time in prayer and the Word
  • dreamed again
  • stopped comparing
  • developed relationships with non-Christians
  • moved my focus from the negative to the positive
  • learned to have fun
  • ended draining relationships
  • expressed gratitude regularly
  • spent more time doing things that energized me
  • got in better physical shape
  • made a commitment to have a greater servant spirit
  • began to pray for my community (Rainer, 2013)

For each response,  see if you can relate at least one of the five “tanks” that we need to keep filled.

Now, take a moment to do some self-evaluation. For each of the “tanks” listed below, evaluate how full your tank is right now. Then as we explore each of these tanks, I will ask you again to self-evaluate and see if you change your response.

  • Spiritual Tank:                                                                  
  • Sensory Tank:                                                                   
  • Emotional Tank:                                                               
  • Physical Tank:                                                                  
  • Social Tank:                                                                      

Which of your tanks are on empty right now? Which ones are between half-full and empty. As you look at your self-evaluation, perhaps your spirit cries out to God, “Fill my cup, Lord!” Maybe you look at it and say, “Not doing too bad.” Or maybe all your tanks are full to the brim. Whether you are reading this blog series because you are in full burnout mode and ready to call it quits or because you know someone who has reached this place, this blog series will help you find the way back to full tanks so that you can then, once again, pour into others. As you continue following this series of blogs, I will first break down what self-care is. Then we will discuss the differences between stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue. As we break those down, you will learn the danger signs of stress, burnout, and compassion fatigue. We will next look at each of the five tanks individually and give you ways that you can practice self-care in each of the five areas.

I must point out that self-care is no miraculous cure-all to what ails in your ministry. It will not fix the problems or make them all disappear. It will not make all your parishioners get along. As long as Satan prowls this earth like a mighty lion, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8), then we are on a battlefield and we need to be able to stand firm in our calling until the day of Christ’s return. Practicing continuous self-care will allow you to keep your “tanks” as full as possible so that you will be more capable of standing firm, steadfast, immovable and always excelling in your work for the Lord. It will give you the strength you need so that you don’t choose to throw in the towel and walk away from your calling.

As we close out this blog, let’s return to 2 Corinthians 4:8. Paul wrote: “We are pressured in every way…” Look up the verse in your Bible and read verses 8-9 out loud as it appears in the box below as a letter God wrote to you. Say your name in the blank and then read the verse.

2 Cor 4 8-9 Part 4

 

This blog is part 4 in a series on Self-Care. Be sure to begin with part 1.

Return on Monday, October 1st for Part 5 in the blog series on Self-Care.
Part 5: Understanding Stress