The Bible tells us that when we judge others, we set the standard for how God will judge us. Jesus said in Matthew 7:1-5 that we need to get rid of the log in our eye before we try to remove the speck from someone else’s eye. In fact, Jesus says we’re hypocrites when we do this. Whenever you catch yourself finding fault, stop and look at your own faults. Get alone with God and ask Him to show you where you are at fault. You might just find that God keeps you busy enough getting those logs out of your eye that you won’t be able to see the speck in your spouse’s eye.
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and look, there’s a log in your eye? Hypocrite! First, take the log out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” — Matthew 7:4-5