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Digging Deeper: Me and My House

This week we are digging deeper into our memory verse – Joshua 24:15

Each day will will focus on just one part of the verse. As we are digging deeper, begin with praying that the Holy Spirit will give you wisdom, to open your ears to hear Him speak to you, and to soften your heart so you can apply what He reveals to you.

The verse says:

Digging Deeper: Make it personal

Begin by reading the verse again but personalize it as Paul is writing to you:

As for [YOUR NAME] and the [YOUR LAST NAME] house, we will serve the Lord. — Joshua 24:15

Today we digging deeper into how the spiritual leader leads his house.

Digging Deeper: Recap

Monday, we looked at the first part of the verse that says, “As for me…” and ways to be a spiritual leader in your home. Yesterday, we examined what kind of leader Joshua was and how men can follow his example. Read the previous posts here:

Digging Deeper: Me and my house

While it is true that every individual must decide for themselves to follow Christ, the spiritual leader has a responsibility of leading his family to Christ, to grow in Christ and to serve Christ. Joshua didn’t say that he chose to serve the Lord. He said that he and his house. He made the decision for his household that they, as a family, would serve the Lord. In this post, we challenge men to examine if you can make the same claim as Joshua as say, “As for me and my house…”

As for me and my house, we will follow Christ

As a spiritual leader, you should live out what a follower of Christ looks like as a model for your wife and children. When they look at you, they should see Christ in you. When you love them, they should see Christ’s love in how you love them. They should see Christ serving them as you serve them. As you lead in this way, they will come to know Christ through you and you will have the opportunity to be a witness to them and lead them to Christ.

Do you lead in such a way that you are a witness of Christ to your family and you are able to lead them to Christ and follow Christ?

As for me and my house, we will grow in Christ

As a spiritual leader, you have the responsibility of ensuring your family is growing spiritually. This means you are responsible to see that they are in church, but also in the Word of God at home. You should be leading your family in a daily time of studying God’s Word together and praying together. You should challenge them to hide God’s Word in their heart by memorizing scripture and then meditating on it day and night and teach them to recognize how God wants them to apply it to their lives.

Do you lead in such a way that your family is growing in Christ?

As for me and my house, we will serve Christ

As a spiritual leader in your home, you should be teaching and encouraging your family to serve the Lord. We serve Him through worship and praise, but we also serve Him as we serve others. As a spiritual leader you should teach your family that serving others is a joy and privilege. You should help them identify their God-given gifts and talents and how to plug those into the ministry of your church and teach them how to serve through the ministry of the church. If your church is having a work day, your children should be there helping. If they are praying for someone, they should be taught to pray along with you. And as we navigate 2020 and COVID19, you can teach them to serve others as a ministry of your family.

Do you lead in such a way that your family is serving Christ? Is there a way you can organize a day of serving your community during COVID? Plan a service project for your family to do together and teach them that as they serve others, they are serving Jesus.


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Mark 6:31 – Time for rest

Today’s Verse: Ephesians 5:23

by Julie Bruce

Jesus and the Disciples needed rest

Jesus had been performing miracle after miracle. He had been teaching crowds, defending himself against the Pharisees, and now recently, his cousin, John the Baptist had been beheaded. And everywhere He went, he had the disciples in tow, teaching them everything He possible could for the time after He would return to heaven and the gospel message would be placed into their hands to spread throughout the world. They stood by observing, soaking everything in and miracle after miracle, they were left in speechless awe. We also find in Mark 6 that they were weary and needed rest.

Then, the story changes scenes as Mark inserts the interlude story of John the Baptist being beheaded. In the gospel of Matthew, we find that this incident is connected to Jesus deciding to get away for a while for some rest.

We all need rest from time to time, even when we are busy doing the Lord’s work and serving Him through ministry. Since God created us, he knows more than anyone else that our bodies need adequate rest. And because Jesus, the Son of God, came to dwell among us in a flesh and blood body, he experienced being tired. In John 4:6, we find Jesus worn out from His journey and sat beside the well where he would encounter the Woman at the Well.

Without rest, we are not fully able to accomplish the tasks he has called us to do. When we become so tired that we don’t know how we can keep going, Matthew 11:28 says, “Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Jesus calls us to himself

The Greek word for “come” is deute and means to “come hither” or “follow.” Jesus calls us to himself and to follow His example. Jesus calls us to experience Him in an up-close-and-personal kind of way. He longs to bring us into close proximity and into an intimate fellowship with himself. He wants us to take whatever circumstance we are in and He says, “Give them to Me.” He longs for us to give Him every burden and problem in total surrender and dependence on Him. As we learn to trust him, we are then able to find peace and rest. In 2 Chronicles 20:17, God tells his people to “position yourselves, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord. He is with you.”

Heavy-ladened and weary

Sometimes we get so caught up in hurrying from one to-do item to another that we barely have time to breathe. We end up heavy-laden with burdens and become weary. The Greek word for “weary” is kopiao and means “to labor, toil, expand great effort in hard and disagreeable work,” “to grow weary, tired; labor to the point of exhaustion.” Doesn’t this sound like us? But instead of taking time to rest, we just grab some caffeine or one of those very unhealthy energy drinks and just keep going. The result shows in both our physical health and emotional health. What we really need, is rest.

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God created our need for rest

“Rest” is the Greek word anapauo which means “to refresh, rest up,” or “to cease from labor.” God created our need for rest…a pause from life…for our own good.  A pause to cease from the hustle and noise of life so we are able to:

  • Seek His will and determine our steps
  • spend time with God so we are able to listen to Him
  • re-energize
  • avoid burnout
  • to keep serving Him in whatever capacity we have been called

Saying “yes” to too much

At times, we allow ourselves to get so caught up in life and say “yes” to too many things (sometimes, even ministry areas in the church) until we become burned out. But when we take a pause and seek His will, He will give us insights and let us know His will so that we don’t overextend ourselves to the point of becoming exhausted. We can protect ourselves from being involved in too much if we take the pause to determine His will. However, even when we are following His will, we become weary and need to take a pause. It then becomes a time of re-evaluation and we need to eliminate unnecessary things from our lives so that we have the energy and time to do what He has called us to do.

Daniel was weary

Sometimes, as we do the will of God, Satan fights against it and we feel as if we are rowing a boat upstream without a paddle. Taking a pause to spend time with God and pray over the task we’ve been given will send the angel armies our way. Daniel is an example of this.

In Daniel, chapter 9, he is praying for the Lord to hear him. Verses 20-23, Daniel pleads to God and in his weariness, Gabriel comes to him. Daniel wrote in these verses, “While I was speaking, praying, confessing my sin and the sin of my people Israel, and presenting my petition before Yahweh my God concerning the holy mountain of my God- while I was praying, Gabriel, the man I had seen in the first vision, came to me in my extreme weariness.”

Then in Chapter 10, verses 12-13, Daniel receives another visit. In these verses we read, “Don’t be afraid, Daniel,” he said to me, “for from the first day that you purposed to understand and to humble yourself before your God, your prayers were heard. I have come because of your prayers. But the prince of the kingdom of Persia opposed me for twenty-one days. Then Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help me after I had been left there with the kings of Persia.”

God had heard Daniel’s prayers and sent his messenger to Daniel, but the prince of the kingdom of Persia stood in the way opposing the messenger. Daniel was completely unaware of the spiritual warfare his prayers were stirring up. Yet Daniel continued to pause and seek God until the messenger arrived.

A time of pause and rest allows us to listen to God

Another reason to pause and rest is so we are able to listen to the voice of God. 1 Kings 19:12 is the only verse in the Bible that talks about God speaking in a whisper. Because we have the Spirit of God dwelling within us, the way God speaks to us today is the soft whispers across our heart as we are reading His Word or as the Holy Spirit recalls a verse of scripture to our minds. Sometimes it comes to us as our pastor is preaching or in a conversation with a friend.

These soft, quiet impressions are easy to get loss in the loud bustle of everyday life. If we want to hear the voice of God, we need to quiet ourselves and listen with expectation. He longs to speak to us. But we have to ask ourselves, do we really want to hear His answer? Too often our prayer lives become a one-sided conversation where we tell God what we want Him to do in our lives then jump up and go on about our day. There are things God would love to say to us, but we have to quit talking long enough for Him to get a word in. If you feel as if God never speaks to you, then perhaps it’s time to take a pause and rest in His presence….quietly before him and give Him a chance to speak as we sit silently and listen expectantly.

A time of pause and rest allows us to re-charge

Taking a pause also gives us the change to re-charge. Just as your car runs out of gas, so do our bodies run out of energy. We reach a point where we feel that we have nothing left to give and yet people are still demanding more from us. In Matthew 14:23, Jesus found the need to have some alone time. “After dismissing the crowds, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray. When evening came, He was there alone.”

Did you notice what he did on the mountain, he prayed. Our help and our strength to keep keeping on comes from God. In Psalm 121:2, the psalmist wrote, “My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.” In Psalm 28:7, he wrote, “The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and I am helped. Therefore my heart rejoices, and I praise Him with my song.” If you feel as if you energy tank is running on low, when was the last time you had some meaningful time along with God?

While we also need to take time to get plenty of physical rest each night, we cannot neglect the rest our souls need if we are going to be spiritually healthy. So as we take today to honor the labor of our hands, let’s also take time to rest, recharge so that our labors tomorrow hold new energy, ready to continue in the tasks that God has called us to…whether it’s a ministry related job, real estate, medical, education or any other field where work.

Four things Jesus invited the disciples to do

In Mark 6, Jesus recognized the disciples’ need for rest, and He recognizes ours as well. It is under these circumstances that He invited His disciples to…

  • come with him
  • by themselves
  • to a quiet place
  • and get some rest.

Get away

Sometimes getting the rest you need requires you to get away. Maybe you need to get physically away from all the distractions and just rest. Sometimes the rest we need is spiritual and we need to get away with Jesus. Either way, remember that our Savior knows when we need rest and in those moments He invites us to get away with Him. He wants to lead you away from the crowds and the busyness of life to just bask in His presence. To lean on Him, draw from His strength, and be renewed and refreshed. What will it take for you to actually get away with Him for the rest you need?

Relax and recover

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Have you ever taken a vacation and when you get back you feel as if you need a vacation from your vacation? Sometimes our vacation are so jammed backed with activities that we come back more exhausted than before we left.

When Jesus invited the disciples to come by themselves, it was a time for the ministry team to relax and recover. Mark 6 tells us that the disciples had been in such high demand in the villages where they went that they hadn’t even had time to eat. Whether you serve in a ministry of some sort, are a stay-at-home-mom, a corporate executive, or a day laborer, we can become so busy that we don’t take time to stop an eat or see to the basic needs of life. Jesus invited his ministry team to take some time just for themselves – where they were not in demand, where they were not healing or preaching or casting out demons. Jesus wanted to invest in them relationally. He was also teaching them the importance of rest so they could keep on serving.

A quiet place

Not only did Jesus invite them to come with him to get away be themselves, but he also wanted them to find a quiet place. Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable it can be when everything is quiet? If we are with others, the silence often feels awkward. Some of us even need the hum of a fan just to go to sleep. Whenever I travel and stay in hotels, the hardest part of getting to sleep is how quiet the room is. The truth is, we simply are not used to quiet. However, Jesus challenges you to find it.

It is in the quiet where we can here Jesus say, “Be still and know that I am God.” He wants us to just be still and rest. God knows the demands that have been placed on us. He knows the ministry He has called us to. And He knows the problems you are struggling with. He knows. And He’s inviting you to come away with Him and rest.

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Ephesians 5:23. Head of the House

Today’s Verse: Ephesians 5:23

Head of the House

by Julie Bruce

Are there clearly defined roles within your home? Who has the responsibility of being head of the house? What does this role look like?

A man died and went to heaven to find two signs above two different lines. One sign said: “ALL THOSE MEN WHO HAVE BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE.” That line of men who had not been the head of the house seemed to stretch off through the clouds into infinity.

The second sign read: “ALL THOSE WHO HAVE NEVER BEEN DOMINATED BY THEIR WIVES, STAND HERE.” Underneath the sign stood one man.

He went over to the man, grabbed his arm and said, “What’s the secret, how did you do it? How did you become the head of the house? That other line has millions of men and you are the only one standing in this line.”

The man looked around with a puzzled expression and said, “Why, I am not sure I know. My wife just told me to stand here.”

We have all heard jokes about “who wears the pants in the family.” But who is head of the house is no laughing matter. During the last few decades our culture has redefined marriage and the meaning and responsibilities of men and women in society and in the home have become as jumbled and tangled up as a bowl of spaghetti noodles. Many men are confused do not know how to to be the leaders God has called them to be in their home. So just what does it mean that the husband is the head of the wife?

Head of the home is a responsibility

“Head” does not mean male dominance. A man should not “lord it over” a woman and demand her total obedience to his every wish and command. God never viewed women as second-class citizens. His Word clearly states that we are all equally His children and are of equal value and worth before Him.

Being head of the home doesn’t mean the wife is incapable of thinking, choosing, and deciding. She isn’t a mindless, helpless creature. In fact, God created her to be a helper to her husband. Think for a moment about the head of a corporation. The person in this position is in charge of the corporation, making all decisions and the success or failure of the corporation often lies in the abilities of his/her leadership skills. They have the responsibility of growing the company, developing its employees and providing the corporation’s service to its customers with integrity and professionalism.

In a marriage, God has placed the responsibility of being the head of the home on the shoulders of the husband. As the head, the success of his marriage and his family lies in his abilities to lead his family. He has the responsibility of growing and developing his family spiritually and morally. He has the responsibility to care for them, provide for them, listen to them, and lead them to Christ.

Christ is the head of the church

As a Christian husband, Christ is your head and you should be following His leadership. You should constantly seek His will and direction and then lead your family as Christ leads you. You can’t expect your wife and children to follow you’re leading if you are not following Christ’s leading. When you are not seeking Christ’s leadership in your life, you are more tempted to lead based out of your own selfish desires rather than out of Christ’s will. Selfish leadership is pretty much doomed to failure because it will create contentions. There will be more mistakes that will cause your wife to not trust in your leadership ability. But if your wife knows you have diligently sought direction from God and you are leading your family from that motives rather than selfish motives, she is more likely to willingly follow you, even if it doesn’t match her own desires.

Leading from Christ’s leadership of you

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The spiritual leader who leads as Christ leads him will have both an unconditional love for his wife and a willingness to serve his wife. Remember that Christ loves you unconditional, faults and all and you should love your wife with the same unconditional love. That includes grace, forgiveness, and mercy just as Christ shows to you.

Christ was always willing to serve. Even the most lowest of jobs, Christ stooped and did it and He did it gladly because He loves us. God did not give you the gift of your wife so that she can wait on you and serve you while you prop your feet up with the newspaper or TV. You should be as willing to serve her as she should serve you and you both should serve out of a heart of love just as Christ loved and served you – even to the point of death on the cross.

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Digging Deeper: Joshua as a leader

This week we are digging deeper into our memory verse – Joshua 24:15

Each day will will focus on just one part of the verse. As we are digging deeper, begin with praying that the Holy Spirit will give you wisdom, to open your ears to hear Him speak to you, and to soften your heart so you can apply what He reveals to you.

The verse says:

Digging Deeper: Make it personal

Begin by reading the verse again but personalize it as Paul is writing to you:

As for [YOUR NAME] and the [YOUR LAST NAME] house, we will serve the Lord. — Joshua 24:15

Today we digging deeper into the kind of leader Joshua was.

Digging Deeper: Recap

Yesterday we looked at the first part of the verse that says, “As for me…” and ways to be a spiritual leader in your home. You can find Monday’s post here:

Digging Deeper: What kind of leader was Joshua?

Yesterday, we established that before one could be a spiritual leader, he must first be…spiritual. He must have a personal relationship with Christ and walking with Him every day. Joshua is an excellent example of a spiritual leader, but what makes him a good role model to follow? Well, he did have Moses as a mentor and he was specifically trained by Moses to take his place after Moses died. So he was trained well, but when we dig deeper into the book of Joshua, we can find nine ways that show Joshua was an excellent spiritual leader for men today to follow.

Joshua was Willing to Step Up

God chose Joshua to be the next leader of the nation of Israel after Moses’ death. But like each one of us has a free will to chose to follow God’s plan and path for our lives, Joshua had the choice to obediently follow God’s plan for him or he could have said, “It’s too much to lead these people,” and walked away from the task.

In Joshua 1-9, God commission Joshua. In verse 2 God says, “Moses My servant is dead. Now therefore, arise, go over this Jordan, you and all this people, to the land which I am giving to them – the children of Israel.” As read the rest of the book, we see that Joshua stepped up to the task and he lead with excellence.

Our homes need spiritual leaders willing to step up and lead their homes in a way that honors and glorifies God.

Joshua was Willing to Step Back

Sometimes to lead well, we need to step back and learn to follow well. In Joshua 1:7, God says, “Only be strong and very courageous, that you may observe to do according to all the aw which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may prosper wherever you go.”

God did not want Joshua to stray a little this way or that but to stay directly on the path and course of God’s commandments that God had given to Moses and that Moses would have taught and instructed Joshua. Joshua couldn’t twist the commandment to fit what he wanted. He couldn’t conveniently forget the ones he didn’t like. Nor could he make any of them more rigid that what God intended. He needed to follow them exactly as God said. In doing so, he was willing to step back out of the seat of control and allow God to lead him so that he could then lead God’s people.

Our homes need spiritual leaders willing to step back and follow God before they step up to lead their homes.

Joshua was a man with a plan

Joshua’s plan was God’s plan for his people – to enter the Promised Land. He had a vision for the people to receive the promise God had for them. If you remember Joshua was one of the 12 spies that Moses sent into Canaan as spies. Ten of those spies came back and told the people who impossible it would be to defeat the people living on the land. They told the people that there were giants in the land and that the land was well fortified. Only Joshua and Caleb were brave enough, trusted God enough, and had enough faith that if God promised the land to them, then it was theirs for the taking, no matter what obstacles were before them. However, the people chose to believe the other 10 spies which cost them 40 years of wondering in the desert.

So Joshua had 40 years to envision and plan for this moment when God would lead the nation across the Jordan and into the land flowing with milk and honey. But the obstacle they faced was the Jordan River and then once across they would come face to face with the walls of Jericho. And so Joshua sought God’s plan and God’s plan became his plan. Joshua 1:10-11 says, “Then Joshua commanded the officers of the people, saying, ‘Pass through the camp and command the people saying, ‘Prepare provisions for yourselves, for within three days you will cross over this Jordan, to go in to possess the land which the Lord your God is giving you to possess.'”

Our homes needs spiritual leaders willing to obediently and completely follow God’s plan for their families.

Joshua was a man that was respected

No one will follow a person that is not respected. Especially when they are being asked to do what man would say is impossible. In Joshua 1:16, the people said to Joshua, ” All that you command us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go.” To follow like that, they would have had to respect Joshua as a man and as a leader.

To be a leader that is respected, one must lead by example, be willing to do the hard tasks that no one else wants to do, and have integrity. They need to lead with grace and love. And they need to be slow to anger. They need to be observers and listeners. Above all, they need to be walking closely with God, seeking his direction and wisdom in all aspects of life.

Our homes needs spiritual leaders that are respected.

Joshua was a man that led through the impossibles

So God has promised the land to Israel, but how does the nation get across the Jordan River and how do they bring down the walls of Jericho so they can possess the land? Two very big impossibles for the nation. Joshua doesn’t look at the problems, throw up his hands and say, “There’s no way!” then quit. He seeks God and God tells him exactly how to solve the problems.

In Joshua 3:6 we find God’s solution to the problem of the Jordan River. “Then Joshua spoke to the priests, saying, ‘Take up the ark of the covenant and cross over before the people.” So they took up the ark of the covenant and went before the people.” In verse 8, God says, “You shall command the priests who bear the ark of the covenant, saying, “When you have come to the edge of the water of the Jordan, you shall stand in the Jordan.'” What happened? verse 17 tells us that the waters parted and the people crossed over on dry land.

When they reached the walls of Jericho, God’s instructions were to march around the walls one time for six days and on the 7th day they were to march around the walls of the city 7 times and on the 7th time, the priests would blow the horns and when they did the walls came crashing down.

When you choose to lead through the impossibles, God will do the impossible. Our homes need spiritual leaders who will lead through the impossibles.

Joshua was a man that challenged others

In chapter 18, we find that seven tribes of the nation of Israel had not yet received their inheritance. Joshua says to them in verse 3, “How long will you neglect to go and possess the land which the Lord God of your fathers has given you?” However, he didn’t just challenge them and then go back home, he gave them a plan to get them moving in the direction they needed to go.

Our homes need spiritual leaders who will challenge his family to surrender their lives to God and then follow God’s plan for their lives while helping his family members to move in the direction God has for each of them.

Joshua was a man that allowed others to explore

As leaders, we need to give people boundaries, but they need to feel safe to explore within those boundaries and grow and develop. In chapter 18, verse 8, Joshua says, “Go, walk through the land, survey it, and come back to me.” They did so and wrote a book in seven parts by cities and brought it back to Joshua. Joshua could have gone out and surveyed the land himself and come back and told the 7 tribes what they land of their inheritance looked like. But by sending them out to see it for themselves, they could begin the first steps of taking ownership of the land, grow excitement within them, and give them the stepping stone they needed to step into what God had for them.

Our homes need spiritual leaders that will give safe boundaries but allow his family to grow and develop in all aspects of life.

Joshua was a man that spoke up

When we go back to Moses sending the 12 spies into the land, we find that Joshua was a man who spoke up about his convictions – even when the majority had a different opinion. Ten of the men said taking the land was impossible. Joshua and Caleb alone said, “We can do it with God on our side because he has already given us the land.” But as so often happens today, the people listened to what the majority said and the nation was sent back out into the wilderness to wander for 40 years and only Joshua and Caleb would live from that generation to see and take possession of the land God had promised.

Our families need spiritual leaders who will speak up for God and lead in the way God wants even when the majority says something different.

Joshua was a man of faith

If we learn anything at all from Joshua, it is that he was never content with a timid faith. He was courageous and had great spiritual influence. And the biggest key to his success as a leader was his faith in God. Under Joshua’s leadership, Israel learned to step out by faith against overwhelming opposition and crossed the Jordan River into the land God promised to Abraham. By faith they reestablished the rite of circumcision, conquered Jericho, and then much of the rest of the promised land in a relatively short time. What could you lead your family to do with a courageous faith and great spiritual influence in your home?

Our homes need spiritual leaders who are men of faith.

Digging Deeper: What kind of leader are you?

As you are digging deeper into understanding the kind of spiritual leader God has called you to be for your family, go back through the nine ways the Joshua made an example to follow as a leader. Which of these are true about you? Which do you need to add to how you lead your family? Spend some time in prayer and asking the Holy Spirit to help you be the spiritual leader God has called you to be.


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1 Corinthians 11:3. Who’s in charge?

Today’s Verse: 1 Corinthians 11:3

Who’s in charge?

by Julie Bruce

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If someone were observing your family, would they be left asking “who’s in charge ?” In 1938 Abbott and Costello performed on a radio show a comedy skit entitled, “Who’s on First?” Most of us have seen or at least heard the skit and chuckled along with it. However, in our homes, it isn’t quite so funny when we don’t know our roles and where we belong within the family unit. God ordained order within the home to ensure healthy functioning of the family unit. But when we don’t follow God’s plan for the family, both outsiders and members of the family are left wondering who’s in charge.

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When the kids are in charge

We’ve all seen those homes where the kids rule the nest. They are loud, defiant, rude, stubborn and disobedient. They talk back, stick their tongue out, cross their arms and dig in their heels and refuse to budge. The parents have no control whatsoever.

When Momma’s in charge

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Then there are homes where mom is in control. Dad works all day then comes home to pick up the paper or watch television or play a video game leaving mom to deal with the kids, clean the house, cook, do the laundry and whatever else might be going on. She makes all the major decisions for the family and dad just goes along with the plan. The kids might be more in line (sometimes), but it still is not a home that honors and glorifies God.

Daddy’s in charge- but he’s controlling

Another type of home finds the husband in control, but the wrong kind of control. He’s the one the wife and kids are scared of. He rules with an iron fist and you go along with his way or pay the consequences. He’s controlling, manipulating, abusive physically, emotionally, verbally, and maybe even sexually or financially.

Daddy’s in charge- He’s good, but not God honoring

However, not every husband who takes the lead role in his family is abusive. He may be morally good and protective of his family. He provides for them and helps parent the children. He’s a good husband and father. Yet even this home is not honoring God.

Who then should be in charge in the home? I’m glad you asked. 1 Corinthians 11:3 has the answer. Paul writes to the church at Corinth these words:

“I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”

The key: Everyone submits to someone

The principle behind Paul’s words is submission. Everyone submits to someone, except God. God ordained submission so that the homes would run smoothly. Otherwise, we’d have nothing but chaos, anger, bitterness, competiveness, and arguing. If you notice the chain in Paul’s writing, the woman seems to be at the bottom of the chain of command so let me say that submission is NOT surrender, withdrawal, or apathy. It does not mean that we girls are inferior.

When God created men and women, he made us in his image and that makes males and females on equal ground. One is not better than the other. Both have equal value in God’s eyes. Instead, submission is more about a mutual commitment and cooperation. There is no need for women to compete with men or men to compete with women. God expects men and women to submit as equals. We submit by choice as we willingly serve God in the roles he designed for us. However, for a home to function, someone has to be in charge and when the man does not fulfill his God-given responsibility, many times wives must step in and serve her role and his. So then, what is the husband’s role?

The Man who is in charge and honors God

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Husbands who are spiritual leaders lead through sacrificial love

Husbands are to lead their families through sacrificial love. Ephesians 5:33 says that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. How did Christ demonstrate His love? He gave his life. But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.(Romans 5:8) Even when we were still covered in sin, at our absolute worst, vile, repulsive, Christ loved us enough to die for us. (Ladies, you should not love your husbands any less…just saying!) If you are to love your wives as Christ loved the church, then you need to make sure you have experienced that love for yourself. You can’t give away what you have not yet received.

Husbands who are spiritual leaders lead their families to Christ

Husbands should also lead their families to Christ. Guys, you have the responsibility to be a spiritual leader in your home. After all, God’s purpose for marriage is to make us more like Christ. Christ often referred to the Church as is bride. So as Christians, our marriage should be a picture of Christ and the Church. As such, the head of the husband is Christ and he should be your #1 priority. Your 2nd priority should be your wife and your marriage. Your third priority should be your children. Then your job and providing for your family.  

Husbands who are spiritual leaders have an intimate, thriving relationship with Christ

There is no way you can lead you family the way God has called you to if you do not have an intimate, thriving, growing relationship with Christ. Do a self-examination right now. Where are your priorities? What do you give them most time and attention to? What do you nurture, develop, and look forward to everyday? If your priorities are out of order, what do you need to do to get them where they belong? What commitments do you need to make? Do you have any idols that you need to get rid of? You can’t lead your family to Christ if you’re still trying to get there yourself.

The home that operates as God designed it

Take a moment to imagine what a home would look like if it operated in the way God designed it. How does that look different than what your family looks like now? What changes need to happen? What would it take for your wife to trust you enough that she could willingly step back and trust you to lead your family?

Here is what she needs:

  • Your wife needs to know that you are daily seeking wisdom from God in every decision you make.
  • She needs to know that you are opening discussing decision with her, listening to her input and genuinely considering her opinions.
  • She needs to know that the decisions you make are for the good of the family and not for your own good.
  • Your wife needs to know that she can rely on you, depend on you and that you would not do anything that would knowingly bring harm to the family.
  • She needs to know that God is the first priority in your life and she is second.
  • She needs to know that you are loyal and committed to her.

But gals…you are not off the hook either. In order for men to stand up and lead they need something from us:

  • Your guy needs to know that your first priority is Christ and he is your second.
  • He needs to know you trust him in the decisions he makes
  • Your husband needs your encouragement
  • He needs you to pray for him
  • If he does make a mistake, remember he’s human and we all make mistakes. Don’t bring him down or wag your finger with all the “I told you so” comments. Instead, hug him and tell him you love him then dig in and fix it together.
  • He needs your support
  • He needs your respect

Take some time ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you the ways you are living outside your God-given roles. Ladies, do you need to willingly and cooperatively submit as an equal to your husband? Men, do you need to submit to Christ? What can you do right now that will help you submit to who’s in charge?

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